Oct 5 2012

who cares about etiquette?

I don’t know about you, but there are times when I can’t help but wonder “what on earth has the world come to?!” I’d like to say not many social faux-pas shock me anymore…but…it seems our culture is constantly thinking of new and exciting ways to be offensive/rude/careless…etc.

For a long time I’ve had a dream of writing a book that was a combination of social etiquette/home economics (a sort of “life” textbook if you will). It’s a project that goes on and off the back burner often for me. I occasionally play out scenarios in my mind, though, of droves of offended people telling me to back off and stop telling them how to live their life…and that scares me off from writing. The last thing I want to do is offend. However, there are subjects that I seriously want to have some open discussion on with anyone who is willing to read and comment. So if you get offended easily and don’t want to consider different ideas of lifestyle, maybe just ignore this series I plan on doing on etiquette. :)

In the last few years I have been in a position where social etiquette is very important. My husband is the pastor at a local church, so being a pastors wife puts attention on me that growing up I was not very used to. As I am naturally reserved, I tend to engage with people in a group setting only if I am approached. I also find large group settings to be a bit of a sensory overload (the church common area is prime territory for a brain black out. 200 people all talking at once. Too much.) Add on top of that the fact that I am a performer (so obviously I’m not scared of being in front of people) and you have something that throws people off at times. With all that in mind, it’s easy to understand why some may think (and have told me after being aquatinted with me) that I come off as…um…”snobbish”. So my challenge in the last few years has been to present myself in a way that is still authentic to who I am, but doesn’t come off as closed. Thus, my focus on etiquette. It’s been a learning process for me, and I’ve read numerous etiquette and home economics books from all the way back to the 1850′s up to the 1950′s. There are a lot of ideas in them that are strange and foreign to our culture, but that doesn’t been it’s all bad. (Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater, folks).

I have a thousand and one ideas of what I want to write on. Everything from etiquette in the workplace, to how to be a good host of a party, to what’s appropriate (or not, rather) to wear when you are running errands (leggings aren’t pants, my friends). If you have any ideas that you would like me to expound upon or discuss, leave a comment, or email me (there’s an email link in the top of my page).

I’m excited to share about something that I feel so strongly about. Proper etiquette has gotten a bit of a bad rap as something only uptight people care about, but I think it’s time we start to care a bit more about it, don’t you?

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